It feels like it's been a month since I last visited this here blog space. This past week just slipped away. So much has been going on. Christmas morning came and went, as Christmases always do.
Unfortunately, there was a certain sadness that hung over the festivities. I've debated whether or not to share this with you all because I try to keep this blog arty and happy and positive, but in the interest of reality I'm sharing anyway. We had to say a very sudden and unexpected goodbye to one of Boy Kid's oldest and dearest friends.
When College Girl found out that Joe had died she was as shocked as the rest of us and pretty much summed it up when she said, "But he was the best one!" He was such a nice kid. We've had the pleasure of knowing him since the boys were eight years old, and he always had a certain peace about him, an old soul kind of thing. I was remembering Boy Kid's 11th birthday party. It was a camp out. Campfire, tents, lots of running around getting dirty and whatnot. Joe was there along with maybe 10 other boys. Boys + Vast Quantities of Sugar + Fire tends to easily turn crazy, and sure enough chaos was beginning reign. I distinctly remember being all parent-like and thinking I'd better do something to diffuse the situation before it got completely Lord of the Flies when I looked over at Joe who was standing just outside the shenanigans looking quite amused. He looked back at me and shook his head, smiling, in a distinctly "boys will be boys" sort of way. He looked downright wise. Such a funny look from a little kid. We miss him already. And as we say goodbye to 2011, we say goodbye to Joe.
I love how you did your photos, I can never get a good look with the photo filters. I think of my blogging friends as family, with our good times and sad to share.
ReplyDeleteI hope you and your family have a wonderful New Years and may blessings be with you in the year to come.
Debbie
Its always hard to lose a friend , but one so young - I think is harder still. be kind to yourselves.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about your loss.
ReplyDeleteI'm very sorry to hear about you and your family losing a friend. I lost someone while we were both young too, more than a decade ago. It was hard. Later, after years of insight I realized that there are several mind trips we go through in life, but the most important ones are being born, creating life and dying. I truly wish that everyone who goes through that last trip, does it with excitement and in a peaceful manner. Life is so great, so vivid, that we must be grateful for that in our very last minute. Peace to you.
ReplyDelete...Oh Jo, I am so sorry. Death is a natural part of life and never easy, but when it happens to someone so young it becomes senseless and wrong. He sounds like someone one would be honored to know. Again, I am sorry for your loss. (((hug)))
ReplyDelete...Love & blessings too.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and for Boy Kid who must surely be missing his friend. It's that much harder when someone passes so young :(
ReplyDeleteMy condolences on your loss - blessings to you all in the new year.
ReplyDeleteI know you Jo ... this is a great sorrow. We too have lost a loved one recently ... fastened!
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your loss. Hope that you all & his family will feel comfort during this holiday season.
ReplyDeleteMy condolences to you and your family and your young friend.So long is he is in your heart he is never truly gone. Dxo
ReplyDeleteIn my culture, we believe that loved ones ALWAYS remain around us to guide us, advise us, and sometimes just to make us smile. The fact that Joe was an 'old soul' is especially important to us because we KNOW they will linger and make themselves known. I think he had a sweet, sweet face. And while I know it's hard to lose a friend - especially a YOUNG one - I suspect he will not allow you to be without him very long. I hope Boy Child feels his sweet spirit! As for you, Dylan, and BOTH children, I wish you ALL a year of good health, very little adversity, LOTS of laughter (how can you NOT laugh with Dylan's great humor!) and beautiful, unexpected moments of absolute, unadulterated JOY. Your silly old friend Kai loves you!
ReplyDeleteso begins adulthood for boychick...so sorry for him and for Joe's family. sounds like you have some wonderful memories and that is a great legacy for Joe to leave behind.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear that! It's never easy to lose someone...God Bless!
ReplyDeleteShedding a tear for Joe and his most certainly heartbroken family. Take care of yourselves. These things change you in ways that sneak up on you.
ReplyDeleteJennifer
So very sorry for your loss. So sad when they are so young. They say you go when you have accomplished what it was you were to accomplish here on earth.
ReplyDeleteThe Bridge of San Louis Rey (short story), by Ernest Hemingway, I believe.